Things you should know if a Parent Becomes Incapacitated

Communicating with Your Parents about Finances

  1. Know your parent’s annual expenses and create a budget.  Auto, home, medical expenses, insurance, taxes, utilities, and other expenses.
  1. Know your parent’s sources of annual income.  Dividends, interest, rental income, social security, pensions, and other.
  1. The names and contact information of their accountant, lawyer, and financial advisor.  What financial planning and estate planning has been done to protect assets?
  1. Does a durable power of attorney exist that covers finances?  If yes, who has it?
  1. What are and where are the assets and the names of all financial institutions.  Stocks, bonds, real estate, life insurance policies, annuities, and other.
  1. What are the liabilities?  Mortgage, auto, credit cards and other.
  1. Do they receive and are they eligible for government assistance.  Medicare, Medicaid, Veterans Benefits or Social Security.
  1. Is there any supplemental health insurance in addition to Medicare.  What is the coverage and is it adequate?
  1. Is there any long-term care insurance.  Where are the policies and what is the coverage?
  1. How are bills being paid?  Online, paper checks.  And, is it being done correctly?

Daily Money Management for Older Adults

Money Management for Older Adults

Daily money management programs (DMM) provide personal financial assistance to older adults who can no longer handle certain aspects of money management.   These programs can mean the difference between living independently or not. DMMs also offer relief to family members who are providing care to their older parents or relatives.

The kinds of services that DMMs provide most often are:

  • Paying bills
  • Maintaining financial records
  • Preparing budgets
  • Balancing checkbooks
  • Negotiating with creditors

DMMs can help elders and their caregivers who

  • Cannot keep track of bills and financial documents
  • Often forget to pay bills
  • Cannot write checks because of health problems
  • Have trouble getting to the bank
  • Can no longer manage money or finances
  • Are susceptible to financial scams.

Financial Abuse of Elderly Parents

Elder Americans were robbed of an estimated $4.0 billion in 2013.   Some have called elder abuse “the crime of the century”.  Seniors who lose their money are more likely to go into a nursing home, go on Medicaid, or suffer severe depression.  And, once an older adult has been ripped off, he or she is likely to succumb to other fraudulent financial schemes.

Here are nine warning signs to watch for in older adults which may indicate financial abuse and exploitation is occurring: 1) taking a large amount out of the bank or other cash accounts, 2) making numerous withdrawals of smaller amounts – say $100 at a time, 3) writing a large check to someone they do not know, 4) changing power of attorney or beneficiaries on insurance or investment accounts, 5) bouncing checks or bills going unpaid when there should be enough money to cover bills, 6) making unusual or unnecessary purchases (i.e. golf clubs or jewelry), 7) agreeing to make unnecessary home repairs, 8) becoming too close with a much younger person or an inappropriate person, 9) having a caregiver that is too interested in the finances.

Knowing When To Oversee Mom’s Money

It’s not easy becoming the financial caregiver for an aging parent.  Often the adult children take on this role slowly over time and reluctantly.  Far from being a simple job a financial caregiver must act prudently and in the best interest of the person.  Mistakes and financial disaster can happen especially if you are also tending to the aging parent’s health and other needs.  Horrible stories are often heard of family members, caregivers and others who financially exploited aging seniors.

It’s critical to understand the fiduciary responsibility you are assuming by becoming the financial caregiver.  Frequently you will need to manage the finances even more closely than your own.  Keep good records, account for all sources of income and expenses, maintain adequate insurance, timely pay all bills and taxes, and make certain all investment decisions are made wisely.